These past 8 months my husband has lost several battle buddies to suicide. He takes the news extremely hard. These are the guys he’s been in front lines of war with. Fought alongside each other. Saved each other’s lives. Came home together. Only to lose them to suicide.
Soldiers come home not knowing how to integrate back into the norm. Back to family life after they’ve faced death on a daily basis. Back from the everyday adrenaline that kept them alert and alive. They feel shunned by those that don’t want to understand or getting the “just get over it”. It gets worse when they have no support. They end up homeless or worse looking into the barrel of a gun.
Marriages fall apart because their spouse has come back a different person. They are a shell of the person who hasn’t left war. The battle continues to play over and over in their heads. They’ve seen and done things that would make others shutter. They, at times, feel ashamed. They live with survivors guilt. They have lost battle buddies right there beside them during fire fights and ied’s. Ones they call brothers. Who’ve become closer to them than family. The only ones who truly understand what each is going through without saying a word.
Check in with your battle buddies. They may be going through the same thing and need support from the only family that understands.